Tyler Burkman: One, weddings are a big deal in certain cultures. A very, very big deal. Like a savings account will be created for a girl's wedding before she is even born. And family will continue to save through her life so she doesn't have to make any sacrifices when it comes to her wedding. Two, the guestlists are usually large and guests give generously, usually cash, even hundreds per head. It's not uncommon certain ethnic groups turn a profit on their weddings....Show more
Bryan Avinger: In the US, it's generally accepted that the wedding is about the bride and groom. In other cultures, the wedding is almost more about the bride's father's business contacts than his own daughter! A lavish wedding is created to impress relations and associates of the bride's and groom's parents, and parents who don't or can't put on a big event will lose face in the eyes of their community. So, weddings are expensive and huge, and the bride and groom may have dozens and dozens! of people at their wedding that they don't even know.I remember talking about this to a Korean business partner of a former employer of mine. His son was getting married, and he told me that in his culture the traditional wedding gift is money... and guests give VERY generously. He said he regularly gave the equivalent of $1000 US to the children of business associates and other influential people in his life, and that it was normal to do so because he expected to have his "investments" returned when his son got married. You gave generously in the hopes of receiving generously in the future. In the US, viewing one's wedding as a profitable venture is highly improper, but apparently in his culture it's the norm....Show more
Dorinda Metzer: I had 2 wedding receptions. One reception at our destination wedding site (big vacation, beautiful 5 star resort, beach, 44 close friends and family, husband and I funded it ourselves - just the way I wanted it); the other reception! was Vietnamese style (husband is Viet) it was 250 people, hug! e, lots of food, big banquet hall in his hometown. The second reception was required by his mother and 85% of the guests were his parents' friends, business contacts and distant relatives my husband has never met nor visited. The cultural reception is more for the bride's/groom's parents (whomever is paying) to showcase the bride/groom and a time to show off their wealth and status among their ethnic community. Nothing in those type of receptions is about the bride and groom (aside from ethnicity and heritage). Everyone gives cash at those weddings and the money is used to fund this elaborate, over the top reception. Sometimes parents of the bride and groom deliberately invite mostly rich friends and family because they know they will give alot of money in gifts (not allow less fortunate friends/relatives of the bride and groom to come). It sounds bad but it's culture. The purpose is to essentially 'make starter money' for the bride and groom in their new life togethe! r....Show more
Alphonso Brake: Because they can.I heard indian weddings are 3 day affairs that cost a lot of money and they over the to and they do not cut costs. never been to one but I've heard from a friend.Good luck...Show more
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